Is someone treating you in a way that you don’t like? Have you worked hard to change a behaviour about yourself only to have others still treat you like the person you were before?
How do you get someone to treat you differently? You need to teach them how to do it. This is because, we teach others how to treat us.
My baby girl is a perfect example. She has us well trained. We were very lucky that she took to nursing extremely well. However, when it was time for me to go back to work, she refused to drink from a bottle. We didn’t have a problem with bottling drinking from our first child, so this was new territory for us.
We tried everything we could think of. We used different bottles, different nipples types, different flows, changed the people that were feeding her, changed the places she was being fed but she still refused. Finally, we started feeding her with a spoon and although she wasn’t thrilled about it, she would at least drink enough milk to keep her full until I returned from work. She trained us how to feed her! Side note, she did finally figure out how to take a bottle after a couple months of trying.
So, if someone is consistently speaking to you in a certain tone or in a way that you don’t like....than
take a look at how they see you and how you taught them. Perhaps you let them get away with certain language the first time you met them and never told them that you didn’t like it. Maybe you let behaviours slide repeatedly so they know they could get away with more around you. Whatever the case, examine the role that you play to train others.
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